Wednesday, November 26, 2014

found a florist

I think out of all the vendors, finding a florist was one of the harder decisions. I didn't really have an idea in mind of what I wanted. I don’t have a green thumb (quite the opposite, actually), and all flowers look gorgeous to me, but there was one that I wanted, and always have wanted – peonies.

I was very clueless at how much wedding flowers actually cost, and so decided to look at a few different florists to get a range over what is considered acceptable for wedding flowers.

On a side note: isn’t it crazy how planning a wedding can make a significant sum of money seem insubstantial? Like in what universe but in wedding world does the thought, “Oh, it’s only $1,500? That’s not bad,” ever seem normal?

Since there seem like an infinite number of florists in the Raleigh area, I decided to narrow my search based on reviews, recommendations, and my own personal style. Just like with every other vendor, I learned quickly that I did indeed had a preference, and the arrangements that were less uniform and more like how flowers grow in nature was what I was drawn to. You can see some examples of what I mean here and here.

I focused in on three florists: Fresh Affairs (given top reviews), Expressions of Love (a recommendation), and Eclectic Sage. I met the owner of Eclectic Sage, Heather Ann Miller, at a bridal show.

I decided to go with Eclectic Sage for a few different reasons:
  • She seemed more willing to work to create beautiful florals within my budget
  • Her vision for my wedding aligned with mine
  • Her previous work matched my style
I found that more so with any other vendor, my parents and I worked with arranging my vision for the flowers with the budget. You can go crazy with flowers, so I think it is important to have a set budget in mind when it comes to a florist. It seems that working within a budget is more feasible with florists than with other vendors – there are many ways that you can substitute, add less, tweak styles, etc., than you can with, say, a DJ. This was crucial, as I discovered that peonies, the flowers that I wanted the most, are super expensive, even in season, which at the end of May they were.



Because of this, we decided to let the true focus of the wedding flowers be my bouquet, with big peonies in varying shades of pink. The bridesmaids will carry white bouquets made up of mostly roses, hydrangeas, and greenery, which will look nice with the dresses. Kasey, the Maid of Honor, will carry a smaller version of my bouquet, with white flowers to match the bridesmaids, but also to offset her from the other bridesmaids. The groomsmen will match the bridesmaids, with Matt matching myself.


For the centerpieces, since the linens are so soft (more on that in a later post), we decided to go with pink and white roses, hydrangeas, and greenery to brighten up the tables. The centerpiece for the sweetheart table will be my bouquet. I love the look of mercury glass, and I was able to find gold vessels in a compote bowl style and also as a square vase, to give some differing looks to the table. I didn't want to go with anything too high so that people could still talk to each other across the table. I don’t like the trumpet vase look, so that was nixed quickly.

We decided not to get flowers for the ceremony. The venue is gorgeous enough as it is!

Monday, November 24, 2014

england & france vacation, part four

At this point in the trip we needed a bit of a break, especially since the following day we were getting up early (4am, to be exact), to take the Eurostar to France. We decided to have a bit of a low-key day, and hit up Abbey Road in the morning before heading to Piccadilly Circus for some shopping.


Abbey Road is not the quiet crosswalk that it seems on the Beatles album. It is a very busy street, which makes it all the more hilarious when tourists are trying to recreate the album cover. I don’t think we ever managed to get a good shot of all of us walking across the street, but it was fun to visit.

After that, we stopped at a two-story (!) Lush Cosmetics in Piccadilly Circus. Having worked at Lush a few years ago, I loved stopping by a store in England. It would have been cool to see the first store ever, but maybe on my next trip!


We ate lunch at Speedy’s, which has been made famous by BBC’s TV show Sherlock. On the show, 22B Baker Street is next store to the deli, but in reality it’s a private residence, nowhere near Baker Street. I’m sure that the people who live there are just thrilled at the amount of tourists taking pictures of their front door! #sarcasm



During lunch, we learned that we weren’t far from The British Museum, which is home to the Rosetta Stone, so we did the quickest museum visit ever to catch a glimpse and take some pictures.



Since it was our last day in England, we decided to take a double-decker bus to dinner at The Sherlock Holmes Restaurant for a last meal of fish and chips and a cold beer. We sat in the front on the second floor, and it was quite an experience to see our driver navigate the tiny streets of London during rush hour.


We went to bed soon after dinner to prepare for our early wake-up and France in the morning.

Missed a post from my England & France vacation? Here’s part one, part two, and part three.

Friday, November 21, 2014

november favorites

Can you believe that Thanksgiving is next week? Here's what I've been loving this month:


Burt's Bees lip crayon // I am a sucker for lip products, and I love Burt's Bees (they are local!). Lip crayons are everywhere right now, but I wanted to try a brand with natural ingredients. The lip crayon allows for more control during application, and the matte finish is perfect for a subtle shade or a dramatic lip.

Southern Weddings magazine // This magazine has been my go-to for wedding inspiration this month. I'm proud to be a featured Southern Bride Blogger, too!

dELiA*s Meow Loafer // I have lusted after a pair of Charlotte Olympia Kitty Flats ever since I saw Taylor Swift wearing them. After those flats came up once again on my Instagram feed, I decided to see if I could find a pair of knock-offs that were passable. I haven't shopped at dELiA*s since I was in high school, maybe even middle school, so it was a shock to me to find an almost identical pair on their site - for $15!

Serial podcast // This has been on for more than the month of November, so I know that I am late to the party, but wow, is this good. I'm not one that listens to podcasts, but I decided to give it a go after hearing so much hype about it. It's about the true story of a murder that happened 15 years ago in Baltimore, when Hae Min Lee disappeared after school, her body discovered days later in a nearby park, and her boyfriend Adnan Sayid charged with the crime.

Essie's Chinchilly nail polish // This bluish-gray shade is the perfect fall color, and neutral enough that it can go with virtually anything. It's one of those shades that I rediscover every year.

What are your November favorites?

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

found a photographer

Finding a good wedding photographer was very important to me. I had read numerous articles, blog posts, etc. about how the wedding photographer is one of the most important people on your wedding day – after all, they are the only vendor that provides you with a lasting keepsake of your wedding, so I wanted to get someone good.

But, wedding photography is EXPENSIVE. It can range from $2,000 upwards to $14,000, which is crazy. Though in my experience of looking at various photographers, you get what you pay for. This is something that you should make some cushion room in your budget, because it’s worth spending on. Like I said before, if you don’t have a videographer (we aren’t planning on getting one), then your photographs will be the only things you have to remember your wedding day. It was important to me not to chance it!

Before I dive into how I went about choosing a wedding photographer for me, I want to address why we’ve chosen not to get a videographer. Some people will read this and gasp, thinking we’ve made a big mistake, but a videographer to me seemed superfluous. Matt and I are not the type of people to sit around years later and reminisce about our wedding day by watching a video. We are both incredibly awkward people, and I think a video would just make us both uncomfortable. That’s not to say that we would never look back on our wedding day! I could totally see us looking through a photo album, or going through pictures on our phones.

With that all said, Matt and I did have a photographer do our engagement pictures (more on that later), but decided to find someone else with a bit more experience to photograph our wedding.

So, like I did with every other step of this wedding planning process, I started researching. And researching. And researching. I believe that in all I looked at different photographers for a couple weeks. All this researching helped me in two ways – I got a good idea of the range that I was comfortable in spending, and what style I was looking for.

I realized that I was drawn to photographs with lots of natural light, that weren’t staged or posed, and detail shots – I LOVE detail shots. I’m also interested in submitting my wedding in a wedding editorial like Southern WeddingsStyle Me Pretty, or Green Wedding Shoes, so I was looking for someone who had their photos featured before.

Many, many photographers were just way too expensive, or weren’t in the style that I was looking for, but there were two that interested me – Brett & Jessica Photography and Emily March Photography.

They were both great in their own ways, and I had a hard time choosing between the two. In the end, I decided to go with Emily March Photography because her photographs looked more professional, more artistic – almost like something in an editorial magazine, she had a better eye for framing pictures, and the overall lighting and look of her photographs just resonated with me personally.

With Emily, her love of God shines through her pictures, and after speaking with her, I got the sense they she genuinely loves shooting weddings – she talked about why this was a passion of hers for most of our phone conversation, which I loved! She understands marriage from a biblical aspect, and her photographs reflect that.

I know that a lot of people recommend scheduling a shoot with the photographer before the actual wedding day (Emily included), but since we already had engagement photos done, it seemed a bit redundant to have them re-shot. For a few weeks I threw around the idea of bridal portraits, as well.

It seems that bridal portraits (having a photoshoot of the bride’s hair, makeup, dress, and bouquet before the wedding, to be displayed at the reception) are something that is a southern tradition. Growing up in New Jersey, I never attended a wedding with a bridal portrait, but I have been to weddings down south with them.

I emailed Emily about her thoughts. She sent me a link to a great post about the benefits of a bridal session, but in the end I decided that it wasn’t something for me, mostly because of the budget (and I was also afraid of getting my pretty dress ruined before the big day – I am that kind of person). There are a few things when it comes to weddings that you can cut out and no one is going to think anything of it – I felt like bridal portraits were one of those things.

Monday, November 17, 2014

england & france vacation, part three

I like to call this day our literary day – you’ll see why shortly.

While we were planning out everything that we wanted to see and do, we decided that we would be remiss if we didn’t go to Stonehenge, which is only a few hours outside of London. However, we would need to rent a car. Which means we would have to drive on the opposite side of the road.

Seeing people drive on the other side of the road had been spooking us for the first couple days of our trip. But it seems like England knows this throws people off – when you walk up to a crosswalk, there are signs telling you which way to look for incoming traffic!

After getting the car and a very nerve wracking drive through the city, we were off to Stonehenge.

During our research for the trip, we discovered that Jane Austen’s house was on the way to Stonehenge – literally right off an exit from the highway. The house in Chawton is where she spent the last eight years of her life and revised three novels (Sense and Sensibility, Pride and Prejudice, and Northanger Abbey), wrote three more (Mansfield Park, Emma, Persuasion), and started another. (It also dawned on us to visit Highclere Castle, which is the house in Downton Abbey and not far from Hampton Gardens, but it was closed to tours while we were in England.)

Matt insisted that we stop there, and I’m so glad that we did. It was such an experience to see where Jane Austen wrote her novels, including the very desk and room that she sat while writing! Seeing my favorite author’s home was something that I’ll remember for a long time.


After that it was on to Stonehenge, which was incredible. You’re driving along a stretch of highway, and then – BAM! – there are these ancient rocks standing in a circle just on the side of the road. It’s a little unsettling!



Stonehenge is one of those places where you should get the audio tour guide. I learned so much about the history of the surrounding area, the rock formations themselves, and other interesting facts than I would have if I just stood there staring at a bunch of rocks for several minutes. It is such an incredible place, and a must-see for those traveling to England!

After that it was off to Oxford, where we explored the town, marveled at the architecture of Oxford University, and ate dinner at The Eagle and Child, a local pub famous for its frequent diners – J. R.R. Tolkein and C.S. Lewis.


I loved this place. It was the quintessential British pub, with Pimm’s cups, fish and chips, and mashed peas on the menu. Coupled with its rich history, this was a great place to spend a meal.

We then walked around the town, and Matt’s brother Cooper pointed out C.S. Lewis’ apartment door, which now has matching Mr. Tumnus busts in the corners.


For the running fans in our group, we also stopped at the track where Roger Bannister broke the four minute mile.

Missed a post from my England & France vacation? Here’s part one and part two.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

ordered a wedding dress + shoes

Don’t worry, I’m not actually going to post pictures of my wedding dress. I am, however, going to tell you all about the process of picking the perfect dress for me.

I’m not one of those girls who spent most of her childhood thinking about her wedding, and I never, until I got engaged, made a board on Pinterest about weddings. (Now I pin to my heart’s content on my wedding board.)

So when it was time to think about a wedding dress, I really had no idea where to begin. I had heard about a collection of dresses called the Disney Princess Wedding Collection, and so I decided to look into those first, since I love all things Disney.

Side note: there are engagement rings floating around on the internet called Disney Princess Engagement Rings. These are not actually real, as Matt said he looked into getting one for me. Oh, well!

Anyway, the Snow White gown caught my eye out of all the others from the collection. I found a store near me that carried the Disney Princess bridal gowns, and went to try it on.

It just…didn’t work. I don’t know what it was, but it just seemed like the dress was wearing me, and I wasn’t wearing the dress. I was a little disappointed, but I decided to try on a bunch of other dresses in varying styles and designs to see what I would like the best.



There was one style that I kept being drawn to (pictured above - keep in mind that this dress is at least four sizes too big for me), but since this was early in the year and way too soon to purchase a dress, I used that style as a reference and booked an appointment at a boutique in Raleigh called Maggi Bridal a couple months later.

Maggi Bridal is unique in that it only books one dress appointment at a time, so that you are the only person in the shop while trying on dresses. The girl that I worked with was friendly, patient, helpful, and very mindful of my budget, which helped a ton in picking the perfect dress for me.

After discussing the different styles that I liked, she helped me pick out a few gowns to try on. I wound up picking the first dress that I tried on, that went completely against what I had originally told her, ha! Though I’ve heard that’s the way it usually goes with wedding dresses.

I spend more times that I would like to admit looking at pictures of myself in the dress on my iPhone. I can’t wait to wear it!

Going along with that, I’m still in the process of picking wedding accessories (are there any cute bridal panties that AREN’T sheer?! I don’t want to show off all my bits to my bridesmaids!), but the shoes I decided on fairly quickly.

I knew that I wanted statement shoes, preferably in pink, since it would go along with the wedding colors but would also give me that pop of color that I wanted. I saw these shoes on Pinterest that were perfect, but being Valentinos, the price tag was not.

I dedicated one night searching around on the Internet for a similar shoe style. Every time I thought I found a shoe that was similar to the original that I loved so much, I would discover that it was in fact the same shoe! It seemed it was meant to be, and with a little coaxing from Matt, I took the plunge and invested in the Valentinos.

Missed a Wedding Wednesday post? Here’s our engagement story, choosing the colors, choosing the bridal party, and picking the venue.

Monday, November 10, 2014

england & france vacation, part two


The third day was pretty much a Harry Potter day. We had tickets for the Warner Brothers Studio Tour: The Making of Harry Potter, which was so magical. If you ever get the chance to go to London, you have to go on the Harry Potter tour. It’s about an hour train ride outside the city, then a 10 minute bus ride, but it is very worth it.

The sets, props, everything there were actually used in the film by the actors, and many of the scenes were filmed there as well.







When you watch the movies, you don’t think about how much actually goes into making all the props, but almost everything was originally made (including Hogwarts and the Great Hall). There is so much to see, too – we pretty much spent the entire day there.





My favorite was seeing all the paper goods, including the ticket to Hogwarts, the Marauder’s Map, the Quibbler, and Harry’s letters from Hogwarts.


I’ve been to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter (yes, major Harry Potter nerd right here), and so most of the things in the gift shop I had already seen or purchased, but I knew that I wanted to get Luna’s wand. I already have Hermione’s, but Luna is a fellow Ravenclaw, so it only seemed right.

After that we went to King’s Cross, and Platform 9 ¾. Matt said the first time he came to London, they just had a sign hidden in the train station for fans to photograph, but they’ve really amped it up since then.

They still have the Platform 9 ¾ sign, but now they have a trolley, complete with trunks and an owl in a cage, halfway through the wall, to make it seem like you are about to go onto the platform. They also have attendants who oversee the line and take your photo. They ask you what House you would like to be in, give you a scarf with the corresponding colors, and then one person flings the scarf in the air while the other takes a picture of you in midair.


I think I really nailed it.

Needless to say, this was one of my favorite days.

Look for part three next week! And in case you missed it, here’s part one.

Friday, November 7, 2014

weekend links / 2


What are you doing this weekend? Matt and I are heading to the beach to relax before the holiday craziness sets in. We went right before Thanksgiving last year, so we seem to be making it a tradition.

Buy experiences, not things – this is why Matt and I are going a trip (not sure where yet!) as a Christmas gift to ourselves.

Should I start a capsule wardrobe?

I want this cookbook.

The perfect fall drink.

In case you missed it last week - J.K. Rowling has written another short story!

Speaking of Harry Potter, here's Daniel Radcliffe showing off his rapping skills.

The holidays are here! If you are hosting Thanksgiving this year, here are some tips for an inspired Thanksgiving.

For those of you who want a trip down nostalgia lane - My Week With a Flip Phone.

I love pasta (of course I do, I'm Italian), but I couldn't take on the level of dedication as this person - My Life on Olive Garden's Pasta Pass.

Such a cute coat for this winter.

Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

picking the venue

Picking a venue has been so far the hardest decision about the whole wedding planning process. After we got back from Disney World, I jumped right into researching wedding venues. I toyed with the idea of having a destination wedding to Charleston, one of my favorite cities and close to Matt’s grandmom, but came to the conclusion that it would be super expensive, as Charleston is one of the most popular wedding destinations in America. Plus, for someone who is detail oriented, Type A and a bit of a micro-manager, planning a wedding from five-plus hours away seemed like a very bad idea.

So, I started researching wedding venues in Raleigh and the surrounding area.

Since there are a TON of venues in the area, I had to narrow my search down a bit. I decided that I wanted to have the ceremony and reception at the same venue, mainly because it is so much easier for guests and also the bridal party when you can just stay in one place. That crossed off a lot of options, including churches, hotels, and the typical reception halls. Most places that have the ceremony and reception in the same location do the ceremony outside, which I wasn't opposed to.

At this point Matt and I didn't have a wedding date picked out, just a specific time of year – the spring. Why the spring? Summers in North Carolina are brutal, winters are too cold, Fall would make for an almost two-year engagement, and so the spring seemed right. Plus, peonies are my favorite flower, and they happen to be in season in the springtime. No brainer.

I thought originally about getting married Easter weekend, but Easter is early next year, April 3rd. Matt brought up the point that there may be a lot of pollen (for those of you unaware, the pollen season in North Carolina is TERRIBLE. The air is thick with yellow, and it coats the cars, houses, pretty much everything), so we quickly vetoed that idea. We decided on asking venues about dates in late May, as we figured we would be clear of the pollen and the weather would be more pleasant.

Now, I could get to work.

Researching wedding venues was very overwhelming. It helped that I knew some things that I wanted, but when I tell you that I looked at every venue in the area, I am not lying. Most didn't match the feel I was going for, were too expensive, or just not right, so those were quickly scrapped.  As I started researching, I realized that I was drawn to venues that had a “Southern” vibe to them (big, sprawling plantation homes), and over the course of two months went to look at five venues – Fearrington Village, Hudson Manor, Highgrove, The Oaks at Salem, and The Sutherland.

Two out of the five became quick “no’s” for me as soon as I got to the venue. Hudson Manor was one of them. On the outside, the house was gorgeous, but the inside was not as nice, and the owners of the venue lived upstairs, which weirded Matt out a bit. Only the bridal party had access to the house. The grounds were beautifully landscaped, even in the winter. I liked that they had a little chapel on the property, in case it rained. But, the reception was held in a building that looked very much like a dated hall, and they only provided buffets (I wanted a plated dinner). The parking for me was another big negative – people had to park in the grass. I knew that if I was attending a wedding and had to park in the grass and/or mud (if it rained), I would not be happy. The final deal breaker was the owner herself, who just rubbed me the wrong way.

The next “no” was The Oaks at Salem. Again, the venue was owned by a woman who lived there as well, but the guests could go into the house. While the cars were parked on the grass like the previous venue, there was valet parking, which was nice. The ceremony was held outside under a giant oak tree with a pond in the background, and the reception was on the patio with the pond as a backdrop – both beautiful locations. But, the whole venue gave off the vibe that you were just getting married in a rich person’s house, and it didn't seem like an actual wedding venue.

The next two venues were closes “yeses” for me, but in the end I said no to both of them. Highgrove quickly became a favorite of mine. I loved the house and the fact that the guests could go into the house and enjoy it as well (as I started looking at venues I realized how important it was to me for people to be able to go into the house if they pleased, partly because of the price of these venues, which were not cheap, and partly because I wanted my guests to have the full experience of the venue). The ceremony overlooking the lake was gorgeous, and the reception area was nice too, with a big stone fireplace at the end of the room. But, I didn't like the rain option, which was to have to guests sit at their tables in the reception hall, while the ceremony would be conducted in front of the fireplace. The idea of having guests sit at the tables was not appealing to me at all, and seemed tacky and distracting. My parents offered extra money to have the room flipped for both the ceremony and reception, but the manager refused. I was disappointed, but realized that in the end, Highgrove probably wasn't the right venue for me, if I was uneasy about the rain option.

Fearrington Village was almost the winner. It had everything, including multiple ceremony locations, a beautiful open air reception area, and offered delicious food from the restaurant on-site, the only AAA Five-Diamond restaurant in the state of North Carolina. The bridal party got ready in the honeymoon hotel suite, which was also on-site. The rain option was acceptable. It was perfect. The price tag, however, was not, and if I wanted to make it work for our budget, I’d have to cut down the guest list (we currently have a little over 100 guests on the list) and go with a buffet meal, both of which I really wanted to avoid. So, I said goodbye to Fearrington Village and started looking again.

There was still one major venue in the area that I hadn't looked at yet, except briefly online. My co-worker was getting married at The Sutherland in October of this year, and I was trying to avoid her venue, mostly because I didn't want her to think I was copying her, even though it kept coming up in my thoughts. But, after all four “no’s,” I figured it was time to take a look at The Sutherland.

When I stepped on the grounds, I knew it was the one. Old fashioned gas lamps light the path from the parking lot to the ceremony, which is held in a walled garden with immaculate landscaping. The house itself hosts the bridal party before the ceremony, and afterwards, the guests are free to explore the house. The groom and groomsmen get ready in a cabin dating back to the 1700s, which sits on the property. Cocktail hour is on the back patio, overlooking a giant oak tree. The newly finished open-air pavilion hosts the reception, which also doubles as the rain option for the ceremony.



It was perfect. Matt and I decided on a Friday date to save some costs, and after skipping over the extra 20 percent for Memorial Day weekend, decided on May 29, 2015.

I don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea about the places that I didn't like, so I will add this disclaimer: just because these places didn't work for me, doesn't mean they were bad venues. They all were beautiful, and all had positives. It’s just that, for me, the venues that I didn't choose had negatives that I couldn't see past, and decided to pass on. I've seen pictures of weddings done at each of the four venues that I didn't choose that were absolutely gorgeous.

Missed a Wedding Wednesday post? Here's our engagement storychoosing the colors, and choosing the bridal party.

Monday, November 3, 2014

england & france vacation, part one

I meant to write about this trip a while ago. It was going to be one of the first posts written, but life got in the way, and I just never got around to it. Until now!


In May, I traveled with Matt and his family to England and France for a week. The excuse of the trip was to see Matt’s younger brother Cooper, who was studying abroad in London for the semester. It was the first time I had ever been overseas to Europe and the UK, and I was so excited. The trip did not disappoint! We packed in quite a bit into our eight days over there, which was exhausting, but the only way to do everything that we wanted to do.






On the first day we visited Hampton Court Palace, King Henry VIII’s favorite castle. We didn't go into the palace, just the gardens. They were so beautiful, and I understand now why English roses have the distinction they do. After that we were pretty much sleeping on our feet, so we called it a day.






Yes, I was that American girl going around taking pictures of phone booths, taxicabs, mailboxes, Underground signs and the Queen's Guard…


Hey Harry Potter fans, do you recognize that train platform? The opening scene with Harry and Dumbledore from Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince was filmed there. I didn't notice it was the same until Matt's brother Cooper pointed it out to me. The magic of the movies, huh?


The next day was non-stop of all of the most touristy things you can imagine to do in London. We visited Piccadilly Circus, Buckingham Palace, Trafalgar Square, The Tower of London, Tower Bridge, Parliament, Big Ben, Kensington Palace (where Will, Kate, baby George, and Baby #2 live!), Prince Albert Music Hall, and the Albert Memorial. We rode a double-decker bus. We took a boat ride town the River Thames. It was an awesome and very tiring day.

















One of the craziest things about London was how early the sunrise was. One morning I woke up, thinking that it was maybe around 6am judging by the light, and looked at the clock to see that it was only 4:30am! Since it’s so far north, London’s spring and summer days are super long. The sun didn't set until around 9:30pm or so – in France, which is an hour ahead, it didn't set until after 10pm!

Also, since we were traveling in the middle of May, I was expecting the weather in London to be chilly, rainy, and a bit dreary. I purchased some packable tour Hunter boots that I was expecting to wear almost every day, and in fact I only wore them once! The weather was amazing – sunny, mid to upper 70’s, not a cloud in the sky. The weather in France was the complete opposite, ha.

Stay tuned for part two next Monday!